The book „The Five Love Languages“ outlines five ways to express and experience love: gift giving, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, and physical touch.
Written by Gary Chapman, this book (The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate) was written for humans and how we can improve our relationships. These „love languages“ can be applied to our work relationships and friendships, as well.
You might perceive love through physical touch – that would be your love language. Your partner may feel acts of service is the most important – that is his or her love language. This could lead to some confusion.
You may think your partner never shows that they love you, because they aren’t speaking your love language by showing physical affection. From their point of view, they are showing you love by running errands and doing other acts of service.
Once we understand each other’s languages, we can better communicate. When I heard about this, I immediately though of how this applies to our relationships with non-human animals. Maybe all of your life, you were around dogs who loved to be pet and cuddled. Suddenly you have a dog who absolutely hates that, so your training is affected. You’re not able to reward them properly and are not sure why… what if this dog simply wants to be „loved“ differently? Maybe they like vocal praise or simply hanging out with you, instead of being physically touched.
What are your thoughts on this subject? Do you think that non-human animals also have their own love languages?
Would love to hear about it in the comments!