Offering Advice… Or Not…

“In all the time I’d known the old man, I had never once seen him offer advice to anybody on how they should be handling their horse, even when the slightest bit of information from him could have helped tremendously. It was the same reason why he had ignored the thoroughbred that was acting up in the barn at the boarding stable. The woman didn’t ask for help to settle the horse down, so he offered none. In order for her to have asked for help, she first had to admit that she was perhaps doing something wrong. Most people don’t like to admit that and will often take offense when help is offered. So, instead of running the risk of offending the woman and in turn perhaps making things even worse for the horse, he simply did nothing at all.

On. the other hand, I had seen people ask the old man for his help, and it was like opening the floodgates. Information would pour out of him like water through a broken dam, and both horse and rider became better of it. However, if they didn’t ask, he didn’t offer” (33).

Excerpt from Considering the Horse by: Mark Rashid


A good thing to keep in mind… but very hard to do!

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  1. Very true. I wish I had the patience and wisdom of this old man.
    I remember when I started to learn about Natural Horsemanship I was so enthusiastic about it I would like to tell everyone about it and convince him that this is the only way to be with your horse – if interested or not.
    And I was alway dissapointed when I could not convince others which happened most of the time… And I often felt frustrated when I saw people treating their horses unfairly and couldn’t do anything about it. It is hard not to “judge” these people. Another thing was when I was asked what I would do when other people told me about problems with their horses like “I can’t catch my horse on the pasture” or “I can’t send my horse in the trailer”. I often had the feeling they did not really listen to me, but just wanted their own opinion reconfirmed. I have stopped to do this. I try to keep myself back and concentrate on my own business: my relationship to my horse. And try not to “convert” my environment anymore. But it is hard. Thank you for this important quotation!

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